RECOMMENDATIONS: If you are being hit, forced to have sex, or
criticized or verbally abused, you must take steps to stop this very real and potentially dangerous pattern. If you are being dominated in one or more destructive ways, you should seek professional help to figure out how to rectify or leave the relationship or insist that your partner get help to eliminate the abusive behavior. In more subtle instances, where you are unclear as to whether your perceptions of abuse are based on the past or on the present, you may also need professional help to understand fully the interpersonal dynamics that are being played out in your relationship(s). Again, your ASCA meeting Co-Secretaries might have local resource lists to help you find the assistance you need.