ASCA Stages and Steps
Stage One: Remembering
- I am in a breakthrough crisis, having gained some sense of my abuse.
- I have determined that I was physically, sexually or emotionally abused as a child.
- I have made a commitment to recovery from my childhood abuse.
- I shall re-experience each set of memories as they surface in my mind.
- I accept that I was powerless over my abusers' actions
which holds THEM responsible.
- I can respect my shame and anger as a consequence of my abuse,
but shall try not to turn it against myself or others.
- I can sense my inner child whose efforts to survive now can be appreciated.
Stage 2: Mourning
- I have made an inventory of the problem areas in my adult life.
- I have identified the parts of myself connected to self-sabotage.
- I can control my anger and find healthy outlets for my aggression.
- I can identify faulty beliefs and distorted perceptions in myself and others.
- I am facing my shame and developing self-compassion.
- I accept that I have the right to be who I want to be and
live the way I want to live.
- I am able to grieve my childhood and mourn the loss of those who failed me.
Stage Three: Healing
- I am entitled to take the initiative to share in life's riches.
- I am strengthening the healthy parts of myself, adding to my self-esteem.
- I can make necessary changes in my behavior and relationships
at home and work.
- I have resolved the abuse with my offenders to the extent
that is acceptable to me.
- I hold my own meaning about the abuse that releases me
from the legacy of the past.
- I see myself as a thriver in all aspects of life - love, work, parenting, and
- I am resolved in the reunion of my new self and eternal soul.
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© 2007 THE MORRIS CENTER, Revised 11/06