If you would like a new thread/topic

bobR · Joined: 15 Jun 2006 Posts: 6

Hello,

We have had quite a problem preventing spam posts.

If you would like a new topic/thread, just post here, and I'll split it off into a new thread :)

This discussion used to be manually posted by moderators. We have recently redesigned the site to incorporate the bulletin board allowing users to post on their own. But we are experimenting with managing it.

Sorry for this inconvenience.

DianaJoy

Amber · Joined: 18 Apr 2007 Posts: 6

I WAS GOING TO SHARE HERE ,I READ THIS AND BECAME A BIT CONFUSED.SORRY.
DO I SEND WHAT I WANTED TO WRITE AS A REPLY TO YOUR POST ,AND THEN IT WILL BE GIVEN PERMISSION TO PUT UP AS A NEW TOPIC?
AMBER

DianaJoy · Site Admin Joined: 24 Mar 2007 Posts: 479

All you need to do is post here, then you'll be given access to post a topic with your share :)

akosaning · Joined: 02 May 2007 Posts: 1

I am interested in writing about and discussing my experiences.

awi · Joined: 16 May 2007 Posts: 1

Hi bob, I am new to this site. Trying to figure my life out right now. THings are pretty tough. Have a bunch of bad memories and bad dreams. Don't think anyone would believe me or really cares.
awi

firemama · Joined: 15 May 2007 Posts: 9

i'm interested in posting. especially with others working the steps. would be nice to know if its as hard for others as it is me right now.
thanks
firemama

therapodos · Guest

I just posted a reply in the general discussion about the warm welcome the porn spammers create and here they are waiting in the steps forums, too! My God.

Amal · Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 7

Hello, I am a new member and..er... well, I do have some bad memories and whatsoever....

I hope I can find some help here..

bobR · Joined: 15 Jun 2006 Posts: 6

Hello Amal,

I want to welcome you to this forum.

Sharing bad memories is a lot of what you will read here. I am glad that you are considering sharing those memories and looking for support from others here.

I have updated your profile to enable you to post new topics in the various discussion.

Thanks you,
Bob

aleeshajensen · Joined: 29 Jun 2007 Posts: 1

Hi,

I'm new here. I am really struggling today so I searched for help and found this. I really need help. It's getting so difficult living with this day to day not knowing what to do. I thought I could handle it, but I don't believe I can do this alone. I don't know the steps to take to heal and learn. Please help me soon.

Sincerely,
aleeshajensen

rlb3271973 · Joined: 29 Jul 2007 Posts: 1

Hi new here....... I don't know why I didn't look for online help years ago. I have been fighting my demons for years and have really not gotten very far on my own or with counseling I thought I would give this a try. I tried to post a message and I don't know how to get access to do that. So where do I start?

wolfers · Joined: 30 Jul 2007 Posts: 1

I'd like to post to these forums, please.

5JPoppa · Joined: 08 Aug 2007 Posts: 2

Hello-
I am a forty-something yr old man, whose life...isn't what I want it to be. I'm lucky enough to have a wife, who is probably the first person who showwed me what unconditional love was/is. She has however, said no more porn. I'm actually thankful she told me enough was enough.
I am also a survivor of both sexual ("family friend" abuser), and emotionally scarred individual, trying to make ends meet, and help this beautiful lady raise three fairly well-adjusted kids who I love only a little bit less than their mother.
Because of the time that the sexual abuse started(age 9ish to 12), I feel I was starting to begin sexual awareness anyway. The abuse was from a man. He was a predator who used, I think, possibly all my siblings(4). I think I was his most long term feed. I said nothing because I was in a home with a father, who was a malicious verbal and emotional abuser. While I ALWAYS saught my father's approval; I wanted a father-figure. This man was affectionate, a material-giver, and didn't judge, berate or yell at me. I loved it. He let me run around his house naked, and I thought,'Hey, this is fun!!!' Then he asked me to be in his bed with him, and I was...for years. While he never(thank GOD!) even tried penetration, there was petting, and sexual role play for lack of a better discription.
It however, being my first source/experience of sexuality left me with just one source/ origin for sex...male.
Once I was found out, the relationship ended, and legal matters took place...to no avail. Partly because, in hopes of protecting a sibling, I lied. TALK ABOUT GUILT!!!! So, sex became something shame-FILLED, and secretive. I played with kids a little younger, and others my age. Yes, all boys.
I'm getting ahead of things, so I'll end here. I know I have a lover/patner whose going to be beside me to the end but I want to be a person more deserving of that love. More than willing to talk with anyone who wishes to; and hey, ami(earlier discusser, I CARE, e-mail. I'll write back. I promise, there is hope, and luckily, there's love, too. Don't give up.

Claudie1 · Joined: 01 Sep 2007 Posts: 1

Hello,
I'm just discovering your site, and I'd like to know more about the 21 steps you are mentioning.
I'm 53 and I'm still struggling with past abuse.
Even though my grand-father and my brother molested me, there were kind to me. From 5 to 10, grandpa was waiting for me in the hallway between his appartement and my parent;s appartment. Each time he could, I would touch me and I got frozen. From 10 to 12, my brother was coming at night in my bed and was touching me. Here again I froze, didn't say anything. I probably believe that was normal, because of grandpa.
My father was rageholic and specially physically, verbally and emotionally violent my brother, my sister and myself. I was revolting which didn't help. The violence grew even more. My mom was a beautiful woman who had no clue how to deal with her narcissic husband. She had to deal with her own set of child abuse. So she wouldn't say anything to stop the violence, then the habit took place. When I reach my 13, my father would beat me and ripe my clothes off and insulting.
I started to look at my problems about 14 years ago when I moved from Europe in California, and I am exploring all types of healing. I've been to 12steps meetings here and there, but I am not very comfortable. I have been starting to write my story, but I usually give up quickly, but I think I am maiking progress. My sexual life is completly inactive for the last 2 years. I have no desires, and I am scared of committment. But I have hope which is petty new. I have to say that my little work pays off, but I am willing to look at the 21 steps you're talking about.
Please let me know how I can discover more.
Claudie

WildChild · Guest

Hmm...didn't quite understand that "post to the sticky first" thing...

I'm a 42YO female trying to live through recurring nightmares and flashbacks of emotional abuse/abandonment from parents who still live right around the corner. But blessed with a shining angel of a husband and 2 great kids. Also suffer from bipolar disorder, which complicates things.

I have posted to a couple of existing threads and might like to start something new, so please update my rights.

thanks.